Monthly Archives: November 2020


So, my son’s birthday is coming fast, with Christmas just ten days behind it. Unfortunately, things are so tight financially this year we just aren’t going to be able to do either. My son knows that Christmas is not about gifts, it’s about family. He says he understands. COVID-19 has ensured we don’t get to spend time with family so this holiday will be very quiet. It’s his birthday that is grating on my nerves this year. He says he understands that, too. That doesn’t mean he isn’t disappointed. I’m disappointed, too. Maybe I’ll be able to fix that next year.

Thanksgiving was quiet this year. We didn’t go visit anyone, no one came and visited us. We didn’t do a special meal, we just had a relatively uneventful day. It wasn’t bad.

The company I work for has been bought out by another. No, I don’t know if my job is going to continue to exist.

The company I work for did not get their contract renewed. No, I don’t know if my job is going to continue to exist.

So far, I haven’t been able to find anything even remotely close to what I make right now.

I lost an uncle to this damned virus this month. I’ve been told by people who’ve had it that they weren’t impressed and that it was a joke. I politely told them that just because they survived it doesn’t mean everyone will, I know this personally. It sucked.

So with all that bad stuff, it would seem like things are pretty bad, but really, it hasn’t been. Neither of us have been exposed to this virus. Neither of us have had it. This is a good thing. My son and I have had more time to spend together. Despite the fact that he is at an age where spending time with Mom is the last thing he wants to do, we have still had some great laughs together and spent a little time here and there talking. It isn’t much, but it’s more than it has been in the past. I’m sneaking in lessons on cooking, laundry, money management and whatever else I can sneak in…..he only has a few more years before he is going to want to get out on his own. There is a lot he needs to know.

With all the isolation, I am doing my dead level best to be better about calling family and talking. I call my dad almost daily, but I have tried to back off from bugging him everyday and make other contacts. It’s been nice to talk to other folks.

I’m still working on downsizing. My house has no storage. For real, NO storage. I can’t get a shed right now so I am shuffling stuff out to the garbage as I can.

I need to get into the attic and see if I can put some plywood down and make some storage space at least for the two sets of china.

This year I am supposed to go deer hunting. First time. Haven’t been out yet because my hunting partner has either had to work or her son was on quarantine. I plan to go this weekend to hunt for the first time. With a little luck, I’ll put a good amount of meat away in the freezer from that hunt.

I am trying to gather the (used) materials needed to close in my carport to make a little storage space. I get most of the wood from what they throw out at work. That should be lots of fun with my (lack of) knowledge on how to do that. 🙂

I finally got the bushes removed from the front of the house and I am slowly removing the giant freakin’ root balls from them. Once that is complete, I plan to put a covered deck on the front of the house. Initial research says that is going to cost almost as much as my car did. Wow.

Now that this completely mundane, boring post is done, I supposed I might as well find something to do at work. So happy I still have a job for now.

Yeah, things could be better, but they could also be a LOT worse.

Be happy where you are and with what you have. Things really could be a LOT worse.


For the few of you that follow me or that come by on occasion to read my words, here we go.

We lost rock music legend Eddie Van Halen, singer/songwriter Johnny Nash, former Menudo singer Anthony Galindo Ibarra, New York Yankees pitcher Whitey Ford, actress Margaret Nolan, 2 1/2 Men actress Canchata Ferrell, actress Doreen Montalvo, film-maker James Redford, former Miss America Leanza Cornett, singer Nikki McKibbin, actor Eddie Hassell, Kobe Bryant, Regis Philbin and the legendary and amazingly handsome Sean Connery just days ago, just to name a few. We have endured (or are still enduring) the “flying snakes”, the gov’t “admitting” to the existence of UFOs and all the crap that goes with that, the idiotic toilet paper shortage, the pandemic of COVID-19, the most emotionally charged election I have ever seen in my short 47 years, the anxieties of isolation, home-schooling done by parents that have NO business teaching anything but “how NOT to” skits, the cancellation of just about every event we looked forward to, the requirement of face masks, the skyrocketing of Amazon and the addition of fake items to their website that they won’t refund our money for and a million other things it seems….

Needless to say, 2020 just plain sucks.

But there are other things, too. While many parents are having a hard time dealing with kids all day long, many are also learning just how much they were NOT involved in their lives, just how much they were missing…and while it was tough in the beginning, many families are closer now than they have ever been.

Domestic abuse is on the rise, so is divorce. Seems like the hits just keep coming huh.

I have had to stop looking at 2020 as 2020. For me, I have had to zoom in on my little corner of the world, my street, my home, my family. Backing up and looking at the big picture wasn’t doing me any favors. I’ve spent more time with Connor, and while he is a teen-ager and really wants to spend as little time as possible with Mom, we have had some good times during all this hell. I’m even teaching him how to drive.

I will be hunting this year to fill the freezer with hog and deer. In the spring I will put down another garden for veggies, I have fruit trees in the backyard, I used to have berry bushes in the front yard but I lost them last winter, nonetheless, my dream of a home surrounded by food is SLOWLY coming to life. Yes, I have a ways to go, but I am making progress, that’s what matters in my little world.

I have lost friends and loved ones to COVID, deployment, age, cancer, accidents and a handful of other things, and it hurts, but I have to be so grateful those people were part of my life, part of making me who I am. Even if I had known I would lose them so soon, I wouldn’t change them being a part of my life for anything.

There are days when I have to FORCE myself to walk outside, to get out of the house for something other than work. I tend to be a bit of an introvert and it is way too easy for me to get comfy in my little world and just not do anything but go to work and go home.

I have my own ups and downs, as does my son, but we will get through it. I can’t worry about the rest of the world right now. I have to worry about my family. Self-care, taking care of my son, talking to my dad and his girlfriend, making sure we can all laugh at SOMETHING a couple of times a week. That has become so much more important now. My dad is wonderful, he talks to me every time I call, I know he gets tired of talking to me, but he puts up with it. We laugh, cry, swap videos, recommend books and movies to each other and a hundred other things via phone. I miss him and can’t wait for he and his super cool girlfriend to move out here.

Take this time to call a family member you haven’t spoken to in a while. Doesn’t matter how long. They WANT to hear from you, they WANT to hear your voice, they WANT to listen and be listened to. Don’t let anyone close to you lose their connection to humanity. A five minute phone-call could make more difference than you will ever know. When you are out and about, take in what’s around you. Speak to people. It’s ok. We all need some communication and connection. Humans are social animals, whether we want to be or not.

I can’t fix the world, but I can put a little more tape and glue and twine on my own little piece of it. If everyone does a little fixing of their own little world every week, we CAN get through this.